Question

Assalaamu’alaykum
What is the ruling of a wife controlling a husband’s hand whilst masturbating her? I have heard if the husband does this himself it is permissible but what if the wife holds his hand because if she doesn’t, he doesn’t fulfil the desire?

Answer

It is permissible for a husband and wife to masturbate their partner. In the event where the husband is masturbating the wife, if it is actually his hand which is being used and her hand is just directing his hand then there will be no harm in this. Pleasure must be sought from the husband’s body not her own.

الدر المختار وحاشية ابن عابدين (رد المحتار) (4/ 27)
وقدمنا عن المعراج في باب مفسدات الصوم: يجوز أن يستمني بيد زوجته أو خادمته، وانظر ما كتبناه هناك

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